What To Say To Someone Dealing With Infertility

What To Say To Someone Dealing With Infertility

“I know I’ve touched on this before. I know a lot of people have but let me tell you, it needs constant attention.

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Please don’t say “what’s meant to be will be” – we don’t want to hear that when we are doing treatments to help us get pregnant. If we let things “be” we wouldn’t get pregnant.

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Please don’t say “just relax” or “it will happen when you least expect it.” Infertility and infertility treatments are not relaxing. So to add another layer of stress and worry about relaxing just makes us tense up even more. And if we are going through treatments, unfortunately there isn’t much of an element of surprise, so guess what, I don’t want it to happen when I least expect it. I want all of my time and efforts to work.

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Please don’t say “stay positive” believe me, if I wasn’t positive I wouldn’t be going through these treatments. I wouldn’t believe that this could work and therefore I would just throw my hands up. So I am positive but I’m also realistic because I need to shield my heart. .

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Please don’t say “at least you have your…” yes I’m very blessed and lucky to have my kids. But that doesn’t take away from the desire I have to want to grow my family. .

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Here are things you CAN say…”I’m here for you,” “I can’t imagine how hard that must be,” “I would love to know more about your journey,” “I understand if you don’t feel like going to XYZ,” “let me know if you need help with XYZ during your appointments or surgeries,” “I’m here to listen.”

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Those are just some examples. For all of us who suffer through infertility support is a huge factor in our success. What are other things people have said that are helpful to you? 👇🏼

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