“I didn’t pay much attention to pregnant women and babies before we started #ttc. But after our 1st loss, it’s all I saw. It felt like everyone was pregnant or had a baby. Pregnancy announcements flooded my newsfeed. Being in my late 20s, I just knew more pregnant people than I did in my early 20s.
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again…you can be simultaneously happy for someone while also being sad for yourself. I wish I could be more involved in the pregnancies of my friends. I might not always SEEM excited for you, but I promise I am. I just have a little barrier built up, & I am incredibly lucky that my friends understand this. I imagine people who experience other kinds of loss can relate to this. If you went through a divorce or lost a parent, it might be hard to see other people who have what you just lost. It doesn’t mean they don’t deserve it…it just means you wish you had it, too.
Every time I see a fellow #infertilitywarrior announce a pregnancy, it gives me so much hope. I GENUINELY love to see that success. But in our personal lives, we have all seen the flood of “Covid Baby,” pregnancy announcements. Those people are NOT ANY LESS DESERVING of babies than us. But it can be REALLY hard to see a pregnancy announcement every time you open up Facebook. I always wonder “why not me?”
Sure, I have muted some pregnant people on my personal accounts, but let’s face it…it’s not something you can totally avoid. There’s always going to be pregnant people. Some days are harder than others, but as time goes on, I have learned to cope with it. The sting seemed to soften.
We just have to hold onto hope the that someday it will be our turn ❤️
Can you relate? Do you ever feel like all you see is pregnant people?!
*edit: please ignore the spelling error. I know how to spell pregnant 😬😬😬*”